I recently stumbled across a YouTube video about how exhausting hustle culture is, and I caught parallels of the hustle culture epidemic and how things are in the writing world.
How many times are authors told that they must run their writing like a business? To run the business, we need to keep up-to-date on the latest improvements in packaging the book, such as formatting beautiful interior files for ebooks and paperbacks because a simple format isn’t good enough. We also need to keep up-to-date on the latest in promotional strategies because if we don’t, we might not get noticed in an oversaturated market. Of course, while juggling all of this, we need to constantly have new books coming out. No matter how much an author does (or has done in the past), the message is often, “It’s not enough.” To add insult to injury, if an author does make a living, there’s the thought that they should make more money. So even tangible success in the form of money does not eliminate the expectation that we should keep on doing more. Whatever you have done, it’s not enough. You will never truly “arrive”, and if you can’t “arrive”, you will never actually succeed. Any accomplishment you do achieve is temporary. There is no peace for one driven by the hustle culture mindset in the writing world.
The end result of this rabbit trail is exhaustion.
We are human beings. We are not machines. There comes a point when you have done all you can, and you can’t do any more. Some writers figure this out sooner than others, and they immediately take measures to balance out their lives. They don’t wait to hit burnout. Worse, they don’t try to push through burnout. They are smart. I wish I was one of them. Unfortunately, I’m not. I gave into the hustle culture mindset.
Every writer is going to be able to handle a different workload. Obviously. You have to figure out where you land on the spectrum of not enough to too much. You need to know where your balance lies. What I’m concerned about is how often a writer will have this gut feeling that it’s time to quit, and how quick other writers are to criticize them for it.
For example, I was in an author Facebook group earlier this month, and the poster was asking, “When is it okay to quit writing?” That was all the person said. We weren’t given any specifics about why they were asking the question. The responses the author received were more noteworthy than what prompted the person to ask the question in the first place because they demonstrate the mindset of the writing community. A small fraction of the authors said that yes, there are valid reasons why it’s okay to quit. Most of the writers, however, were adamant that there is never a good reason to stop writing. Half of them even wrote, “If you quit, you were never a writer to begin with.”
Let’s focus on that because this is why there is so much overwhelm and stress in the writing community. “If you quit, you were never a writer to begin with.”
Just how many books does a writer need to write to satisfy the definition of being a writer? One? Two? Ten? Twenty? How about 100? Is 100 enough to call it a day and stop writing? Why is writing the one venture where people are told they are failures if they quit writing, even though they have successfully finished and published book(s)? What other profession can you think of where someone is told they failed because they decided not to do it anymore? People quit other jobs all the time to do something else, and I don’t see them being shamed the way writers are.
With that aside, maybe you’re on the fence about whether or not you should quit. Here are some ideas on how to tackle this scenario.
1. Do you want to keep writing? If not, that is fine. It is not illegal to stop writing. Even if you wrote one thing that never got published, you are a writer. A writer doesn’t exist only when they are writing. The act of having written a story makes you a writer. We never tell an actor that they are no longer an actor when they are done making movies. We never tell a painter that they are no longer a painter when they are done with their canvas. Once your name is on that story, you are a writer. No one can take that accomplishment from you. (Now, to be a “published” writer, you obviously need to have at least one story published.)
2. Can you afford to keep writing? Are you sacrificing time spent with loved ones that you’ll never get back to produce more books? There has to be a balance. If you’re able to spend time with them and write, then you’re good to go. However, if you get no time with loved ones because you have to “crank out” the next book, then you might want to reconsider. Once that time is gone with loved ones, you’ll never get it back. (We aren’t guaranteed that we’ll have them around until they’re almost 100. So keep that in mind.) Also, can you balance your job and the writing? You have to pay the bills. If you can’t do both, then the job has to come first. (If the writing is paying the bills, then that’s a whole other source of stress to deal with, but for the sake of this post, we’ll say that you’re not reliant on your writing income.) The last area I’ll touch on is the emotional and physical toll writing can take on your life. Are you able to handle the stress that comes with trying to sell books? It is not easy to stay relevant in a world that is constantly changing. Writing income can be erratic. Can you emotionally deal with the uncertainty of it? Are you able to meet your physical needs and write? We can go for some time without exercise, but we aren’t meant to sit all day forever. We have to be mindful to keep moving or our bodies won’t work like they’re supposed to.
3. Do you need to adjust how you’ve been writing? Maybe you do want to keep writing, but you might have to find your balance. This might require you to slow things down. Maybe you have to relax and allow yourself time to rest. It’s better to do that than to end up sick. Don’t forget your health. Your body is just as important as your mind. How you feel will impact how, or if, you’re able to write. If you don’t make enough time to rest, your body will make you. (I know because it’s making me rest now.) I know that this is especially difficult for people driven to achieve things. I have found that cooking new recipes and doing more cleaning around the house has helped to offset the restlessness I feel if I just sit. I need to keep busy with something. I just had to replace the writing aspect because, whether other people realize it or not, writing is an active process that requires a lot from a mental standpoint. That mental work can’t be done nonstop. We aren’t machines. We need periods of rest to regain our creativity.
4. What do you want most out of life? This is more of a general question, but it’s one that is worth thinking through. Most of us will probably think, “I want to write. That’s why I’m a writer.” Let’s go beyond that. Let’s think more abstract. What overall thing would you like most in your life? For example, do you want more “peace”? Do you want more “focus”? Do you want more “meaning”? Do you want more “joy”? What is it that really means something to you deep down in your gut? What is the snapshot view of your life that would make you satisfied with the years you spent on this earth?
5. Once you figure out the answer to 4, then how can you go about getting it? What actions do you need to take to get that thing you want most? For example, say you’re always busy. Maybe you feel like you’re always being pulled in multiple directions. This has led you to feeling like your life is one chaotic mess. As a result, you want more “peace” in your life. What are things you need to let go of in order to ease that stress on your life? Granted, you can’t eliminate all sources of stress, but which ones can you remove? While you’re removing things, look at things you can add to replace the things you are removing. For example, if you’re the parent of a young child, you can’t remove the child. But maybe you need to spend less time on social media marketing your book. You can replace this with a relaxing activity you enjoy. If you love to walk, you can take the child on the walk with you. If you like to veg out on the couch and watch TV, you can do that with your child, too. In my personal life, my kids are now adults, so the young child thing no longer keeps me busy. But I am finding it necessary to remove some writing time because I can’t handle that workload anymore. I have had to replace it with cooking (which I recently found I actually enjoy; who knew?), and I also give myself 2-3 hours every day to unwind by watching a movie or some favorite TV shows. I know some would say that 2-3 hours spent on the TV is a waste of time. A few years ago, I would have been saying that, too. But given the current status of my physical and mental health, I need this time to decompress from the day so I can sleep better at night. That sleep allows me to heal in a lot of ways. Sorry to go on with my life, but I couldn’t think of anything else to help demonstrate my point on removing some stuff to gain more peace. Because my thing is “peace”. (Oh, I also stay away from arguments as much as possible. So if you find that you are stressed out by negativity, pulling yourself away from negative stuff is something I recommend. Insert stuff that is calming and positive instead.) I do believe it’s important to replace something when you take away something. That way we are intentional with our time.






